Hello, my weirdos 🙂
Is it just me or did you feel the “brrr!” these past few days? I see the cold front is coming in this weekend in South Africa so I hope you all are prepared. Speaking of the weekend, most weekends I do not have something planned. However some weekends I go all out, events, shopping, parties, you name it. I never really knew why sometimes I prefer to be alone and some days I want to socialize.
If you’re anything like me, a thought catalog whore. (Thought Catalog is a publishing platform where you can read articles about just anything) You would have seen quite a few posts about Ambiverts. They have been floating around for some time now and I saw one of my favourite bloggers Nadia Jaftha do a post on this. It really intrigued me as I feel like I am not an extrovert or an introvert. An ambivert is described as “someone who exhibits qualities of both introversion and extroversion.”
Some of the questions that made me question whether I am an ambivert is:
- Do I love being alone but also love being around people?
- Do some situations make me feel outgoing but others make me feel reserved?
- Do I struggle between the labels extrovert and introvert?
(adapted from articles, this research is not my own)
Most people are in fact ambiverts as extroversion is a spectrum. As I read more and more of these articles it all started to make more sense. Whilst most people would assume I am extroverted as I am outspoken and love socializing, at the same time I need my alone time to recharge and regain perspective. Being around people drains my energy and I spend a lot of time alone after socializing to build up my internal batteries.
It is surprising because when I am around people I am chatty and often the one that drags everyone to the dance floor. However, in other situations, you might find me alone reading something. My mother used to call me an indoor plant but as I grew up I became more of a social butterfly. Somewhere along this path I always knew I was never the extrovert or introvert. As an ambivert, we always adapt to the current environment but if we are not prepared for it, we may disappear into the shadows.
Have you ever felt this way? Here are a few things that you may relate to if you are an ambivert:
- You get really exhausted after spending many hours socializing.
- You most likely hate small talk.
- You love being alone but you also cannot hibernate alone forever.
- When you are with people you know you are comfortable and talkative.
- You don’t understand people who go out every night (even though you did at some stage and were most likely the life of the party).
- You adapt well to most social situations you are put in (besides when your ex pops up from nowhere).
- You are more than happy staying in on a Friday night. (even Saturday night)
- Your party friends are often trying to drag you out but you are already in your pj’s ready to watch some series in bed.
- You prefer restaurants or lounges to noisy clubs (on the odd occasion you end up in the club, damn am I getting old?)
- Some days when you get talking you cannot stop, other days you do not talk to anyone.
- You don’t think before speaking sometimes and people think you are blunt.(but I am straight forward in general.)
- You are always observing your surroundings and very intuitive.
These are just some of the traits I picked up on and also felt resonates with me. If you related to them do let me know, maybe you are an ambivert too. 🙂
Until next post…
xx Miss Dhanusha
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